Coaching provides a 'hand up' to reach your goal. Your life energy is a resource beyond value. In the words of the poet, Mary Oliver, "..what is it you plan to do with your one, wild, precious life?" As your coach, I will help you answer this critical question to clarify your purpose and make a firm commitment to follow your guiding values. Then you will develop a wise plan followed by courageous action to realize your goals.
Conflict Coaching
In some situations it may not be appropriate or even possible to use a mediator to assist you directly. However, if you face difficult conflict, you don't need to do so alone.
I can work with you behind the scenes as a guide and a sounding board. Together, you will become more effective, developing sound strategies, weighing offers and alternatives, and honing your communication. You will increase the
likelihood for positive resolution.
Decision Coaching
You will come to the session ready to engage fully with the challenge of making a good decision after completing my preparation checklist.
In a focused 2-4 hour session, you will refine your objectives, assess risks and consequences, articulate what is essentially important that will guide the choice, develop and weigh options, make a final decision, and determine the best way to credibly communicate the decision to others.
Mediator Coaching
The Path to Mastery
Mastery means...Outstanding Ability…Skillfulness…Proficiency
Many people experience a strong ‘call’ to learn and apply mediation skills, arriving in the field excited and hopeful. Yet, too often, their hopes remain unrealized after training and mediation experience.
- Are you an experienced mediator on a skill plateau and need to find the learning edge so you can reach the next level?
- Are you new to the practice of mediation and can use a guide to get the most learning from your initial experiences?
- Do you want to find a way to integrate mediation skills into other professional work?
- As a volunteer or professional, do you want to walk into every mediation with clarity, centered in your mission and highest values, able to give your best?
- Do you want to build a new mediation practice or grow an existing practice?
- Are you ready to take on more difficult, complex cases and need some behind-the-scenes support?
- Are you willing to follow a path of dynamic learning tailored to your particular needs?
In 1995, I co-authored The Art of Mediation and we stated in the preface:
“Only through the artistic application of technique, intuition, insight, empathy,
and heart, by a skilled mediator, can mediation reach its fullest potential.”
After 30 years as a practitioner and teacher, I am convinced that the capacity to be an outstanding mediator does not develop in the training room and no amount of experience assures outstanding ability. Training and experience are necessary, but not sufficient, to develop mastery as a mediator.
Mastery comes after training and experience when you integrate the framework of the mediation process, its skills, values and structural wisdom, into your way of being. A skilled coach with a deep understanding of mediation can support this integration process by meeting the learner in a one-to-one relationship that recognizes her level of experience and her specific learning needs.
As a coach, my undivided focus is each person’s unique path to mastery so I can offer guidance to accelerate integrated learning. This focused guidance enables a few hours of coaching to produce much more progress than days of formal training or months of unguided experience. The learning mediator transforms into a reflective, artistic practitioner who understands his strengths, recognizes development needs, examines blind spots, and takes the necessary action to assure mastery. You will be able to:
- create your own detailed map to reach concrete goals
- work within a structure that maintains accountability for implementation, ensuring results
- integrate mediation principles into your way of being in the most challenging relationships (family/work/community)
- encourage your heart and engage the spirit to overcome all barriers
- link to the best resources for your professional and personal development
- access the depth of your inner resourcefulness
I look forward to sharing the fruits of my years of experience and reflection about mediation. If you are motivated to become a masterful practitioner of this art, contact me to discuss your learning goals and the benefits of a coaching relationship. I am available to work with mediators living in other locations, combining periodic face-to-face meetings in Santa Fe or Albuquerque with telephone or SKYPE internet sessions.
